It was many years ago– more than I’d care to admit. I was standing in the doorway of the living room in our house. Looking straight ahead, into the next room, I could see my firstborn. He was about two years old. Turning to my right, I could see my oldest child standing on the staircase. She was about 16 years old.
You’d think that by the time I got to my 19th child, I’d be over the proud mama moments. I’ve seen babies walk and I’ve heard them talk. I’ve received a million baby kisses and have cleaned the face of more than one sauce-covered toddler. I have baby pictures everywhere in our home, showing our kids doing rather normal baby-type things. But, I’m still head over heels with babies.
If you’re the parent of a foster or adopted child who has behavior issues, you may (or may not) have heard the term Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Let Google help you find where to look online for information about RAD and how it impacts children and adults who have lived through abuse, particularly abuse that occurs at an early age. Sometimes, these kids are referred to as RADishes; an attempt to add some levity to what can be a difficult life to live, both for the child and his or her parents.
Our son Michael has had a rough life. He weighed a little over three pounds when he was born. We were never told why, but it’s not a big leap to assume that he was premature. His parents either didn’t know how to take care of their children, or were too high to care. Social workers found him wandering the streets with a little brother when they were pre-schoolers. Michael was only three years old at the time. His brother was 10 months younger. They ended up in foster care.
Over my many years of parenting, I have grown to really dislike gift-giving holidays. And, every holiday, I forget how deep my resentment goes until the holiday is upon me. I enjoy shopping for the perfect gifts for each of my kids. I enjoy the thought they put into the gifts they pick for other family members. That part is fun and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. What I don’t like is dealing with the gift-giving reality from well-meaning agencies as well as some of their biological or prior adoptive families.
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